At work, what makes a leader a bully vs having high expectations and creating accountability?

<p>Elissa Hecker started us off with a story about how a new boss ruined an organization by being directive rather than mentoring. She found that scolding rather than teaching when mistakes happen is a difference between accountability and bullying.</p> <p> </p> <p>Jim Tam agreed adding that intent is also part of it. If your goal is to make yourself look good by pointing out that other people aren’t meeting expectations, that is bullying.</p> <p> </p> <p>Bo Short pointed out that mandate is a management style, not a good one. That my-way-or-the-highway style if often used by people who lack confidence.</p> <p> </p> <p>We then got into the conversation about whether someone who is a bully at work is also a bully at home and vice versa.</p> <p> </p> <p>Where do you draw the link between having expectations/holding people accountable and bullying?</p> <p> </p> <p>Contact the panelists: Elissa D. Hecker: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elissa-d-hecker-48467711/</p> <p>She is the Go-To General Counsel, Collaborative Partner, and Creative Problem Solver, for businesses and the Entertainment and Arts industries.</p> <p> </p> <p>Jim Tam: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jimtam/</p> <p>Is a Principal Client Director with Korn Ferry’s Digital group where he advises organizations on how to improve their sales effectiveness through using world-class sales methodology and technology.</p> <p> </p> <p>Bo Short: <a href='https://www.linkedin.com/in/boshort/'>https://www.linkedin.com/in/boshort/</a></p> <p>Currently a Speaker/Mentor/Author. Previously a CEO & President in both privately held & publicly traded companies in the consumer products & tech sectors.</p> <p> </p> <p>Dr Robyn Odegaard: <a href='https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/'>https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/</a></p> <p>Known as the Mental MacGyver. My doctorate is in organizational business psychology with a concentration in sport and performance. I provide luxury level, high performance support and coaching to executives, founders, celebrities and athletes.