ARE YOU SUFFERING FROM ENABLER'S GUILT?

<p><strong>You could be suffering from enabler's guilt without knowing what is causing your fear, anxiety, or depression. THE GOOD NEWS: It doesn't have to be that way. Once you recognize what's going on, you can take steps to change it,&nbsp;reclaim your power, and rebuild your life.</strong></p><br><p>Do you ever feel that, somehow, it's your job to make other people happy? Where do you think you got that idea? Who taught you that?</p><br><p>Those answers are a good start on how you may have come to have enabler's guilt. In episode 196, I talked about <a href="https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/wonder-why-people-pleasers-attract-emotional-abusers/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">people pleasing in depth</a>. That's part of it. Add to that the concept of <a href="https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/the-fawning-response/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Fawning Response</a> and you'll understand more fully the underpinnings of my concept of "Enabler's Guilt."</p><br><p>You've likely heard of Survivor's Guilt which happens when people believe they have done something wrong by surviving a traumatic or tragic event when others didn't. Think of that as a parallel concept to Enabler's Guilt....especially if you have already determined that you have, at times at least, been an enabler of a Hijackal, a difficult, toxic person. Here's my definition of enabling to help:</p><br><p><em>"Enabling is when you usually step in to fix, solve, excuse, rationalize, justify, or make the consequences go away for the poor choices of others.</em>" Familiar? Do you know an enabler? Are you one?</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul><li>What enabler's guilt is</li><li>How enabler's guilt is similar to survivor's guilt and witness guilt</li><li>Why guilt and feeling guilty are not the same</li><li>How you came to believe other people are more important than you are</li><li>Steps to rethink your guilt and reclaim your power</li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you are experiencing enabler's guilt,