
Are You Helping or Enabling?
Theophilus Mensah
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Are you helping or enabling?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Do you know the difference between the two?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Listener Greg Parsons recently asked us what the difference is. On this episode, we’re breaking it down and explaining how you can tell if you’re helping or enabling.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Helping is setting clear expectations and sticking to them. It is teaching somebody how to do something and then letting them go off on their own to do it. When you work with someone to make them responsible, you are helping them.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Enabling, on the other hand, is doing something for somebody that they should have done themselves. It is not enforcing the expectations that we have set. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we enable, we’re giving people permission. We’re telling them that we actually didn’t mean what we said. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In the long run, this hurts them. We need tough love instead. By helping the person take responsibility we are showing them that we care.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have a problem that’s recurring,</span> <em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">you</span></em> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">might actually be the problem. By seeing the same behavior over and over again and doing nothing about it, you’re allowing it to continue to happen. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Stop taking the easy way out and letting things go. Instead, educate, inspire, and hold people accountable. In this way, you’re helping them.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you want to hear more from Jody and I, tune in to our guest episodes on the podcast How That Happened. You can find</span> <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jody-maberry-maberica-inc/id1466304838?i=1000482893968"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Jody’s episode here</span></a> <spa