Amanda Luterman on Erotic Empathy (#40)

<p>2:09 - how do people respond when Amanda introduces herself at a networking event.</p><p>3:52 - scared of talking about sex.</p><p>5:06 - how Amanda's journey into erotic empathy started.</p><p>6:43 - what is erotic empathy.</p><p>7:47 - we push our partner away because of the way we feel about ourselves.</p><p>8:57 - not being judgemental about your partner's sexual preferences.</p><p>11:08 - is it usually females who are more likely to find themselves unattractive?</p><p>12:52 - how to open up with your partner about your sexual preferences.</p><p>16:01 - asking your partner: what were you fantasizing about during sex?</p><p>16:16 - power dynamics are a common sexual fantasy.</p><p>16:47 - example of initiating sex with a power dynamic.</p><p>18:54 - the way people engage in partnered sex contradicts the way people masturbate.</p><p>21:57 - lessening the pressure and expectations in sex.</p><p>24:30 - how important is sex in a romantic relationship.</p><p>25:57 - your marriage isn't over just because you develop feelings for someone else.</p><p>27:06 - the pressure men feel during sex.</p><p>29:50 - a lover is not responsible for both people's pleasure.</p><p>30:35 - being good at sex is not about technique.</p><p>32:18 - religious or moral constraints on sex.</p><p>34:36 - therapy can help couples communicate their sexual needs and expectations more safely.</p><p>35:32 - how to get better at talking to your partner about sex.</p><p>38:12 - what do women want? what do men want?</p><p>40:22 - power switching and taboo fantasies are super arousing.</p><p>41:44 - is there hope if you are no longer attracted to each other?</p><p>46:42 - marriage is a promise to look after yourself for the other person.</p><p>48:21 - what if I'm not into the same things that turn on my partner?</p><p>51:48 - can sharing fantasies of sleeping with other people go too far?</p><p>53:52 - controlling your emotions so your partner can share their sexual preferences openly with you.</p><p>54:51 - sex is about communication and emotion