Achievement, self-worth and rigid rules

<p>What do you base your self-worth on? If your self-worth is based on achievement, you’ll feel good about yourself as long as you are achieving. If you fail, your self-esteem will plummet.</p> <p>You may think of yourself as confident in one area of your life, and not in others.</p> <p>What then happens when you make a mistake in that area?</p> <p>Inevitably, you will. Your self-esteem and confidence will then come tumbling down like a house of cards, as you have built it on you always achieving high standards and reaching your goals.</p> <p>In this brief solo episode, I discuss what happens when you attach your self-worth to your achievements, and how following rigid rules sets you up for disappointment.  </p> <p>If you need a self-compassionate break, telling yourself how hard it is sometimes and giving yourself some kindness instead of criticism around a mistake, then you can download a free 4min guided meditation audio on <a href='http://www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/break'>www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/break</a></p> <p><a href='http://www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thelastingconnection'>Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here</a></p> <p><a href='http://www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/thecompassionatecouple'>To spend 90 days to develop love and compassion for yourself, join the online course, The Compassionate Couple, here</a></p> <p>Find me at <a href='https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/'>www.thethomasconnection.co.uk</a></p> <p>Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/the_thomas_connection/'>@the_thomas_connection</a></p> <p>Facebook: <a href='https://www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection/'>www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection</a></p> <p>Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: <a href='https://www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay'>www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay </a></p> <p> </p> <p>This episode was edited by <a href='http://www.emilycrosbymedia.com/'>Emily Crosby Media</a></p>