94. Boundaries: Create Space and Time to Hit Your Goals

<p>Recently, I was reflecting on my parenting style and how it’s evolved over time. </p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>As much as we think we’ll parent in our own unique way once we have little ones, we often do things just like our parents.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>Can you relate?</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>There was a time, as a new mother, when I used blame and shame just as my parents had to set boundaries with me and my siblings.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>I used their approach on my own children because I had weak boundaries at that time. This approach is effective for controlling little ones, but it doesn’t produce responsible, happy children with high self-esteem.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>Eventually two things happened: </p> <p class="p1"> </p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1">I became more self-aware of my boundary setting style, and </li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1">I learned healthier boundaries. </li> </ul><br/> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>Eventually, I replaced blame and shame with peace and confidence to set healthy boundaries.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>This has made all the difference with my children, improving my relationship with each of them. It’s also helped me professionally as an executive director who was responsible for a leadership team. </p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>If you’ve been struggling with setting clear boundaries inside your center—with other leaders, teachers, or even parents, this is the podcast episode for you. </p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>It’s the second episode in my new B.R.I.D.G.E. series that’s all about helping you gain the critical meta-skills you need as a 21st-century school leader. </p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>This week’s focus is on raising awareness of boundary setting styles in order to help you develop healthy boundaries within your center.</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <p>Join me for a conversation about:</p> <p class="p1"> </p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1">How and why you need to overcome rigid black-and-white thinking</li>