91: Thriving After Divorce with Alicia Robertson

<p dir="ltr">In this episode, we chat with Alicia Robertson — founder and CEO of Lemonadelife, author of the Amazon best-selling book Make Lemonade: Thrive Through Divorce by Transforming Your Life, and a motivational speaker. We talk about the dilemmas when going through a divorce, prioritizing ourselves, and why we stay through a relationship despite receiving the bare minimum. She also gives us tips on how to gain confidence after divorce, how to cope with loneliness, and how to determine healthy relationships.</p> <p dir="ltr">[2:43] The Calling</p> <p dir="ltr">“I never knew what it was, and I never have imagined it was my own experience through divorce.”</p> <p dir="ltr">[7:35] Growth Mindset</p> <p dir="ltr">“I felt like I was losing everything, because my whole identity wasn’t what it meant to be in a partnership.”</p> <p dir="ltr">[8:56] Losing Yourself</p> <p dir="ltr">“When you live according to other people’s values, you lose yourself… But figuring what yourself is when you’re there is so hard.”</p> <p dir="ltr">[13:29] Learning </p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s really being clear about your expectations, and how you’re going to receive as much as you give, without taking the fun and spontaneity out of it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">[17:27] Communicating Your Needs</p> <p dir="ltr">“The easiest way for me to do that is to really have bite size pieces to stay focused on the facts. Is this meeting what is a top 3 needs for me?”</p> <p dir="ltr">[23:10] Bare Minimum</p> <p dir="ltr">“Because even if it’s a little hit of pleasure and connection, to my way of thinking then, was better than nothing, and then you start to settle, right?”</p> <p dir="ltr">[27:24] Isolation</p> <p dir="ltr">“Women are connectors… so when we go through a breakup, it could really be isolating for us.”</p> <p dir="ltr">[31:59] Coping with Loneliness </p> <p dir="ltr">“For me, it was really exploring deeply why that was something that was feeling stuck and fearful to me, and then shifting into what really was an opportunity to create for myself.”</p