9 Ways to get Unstuck when you Feel Hurt or Betrayed and Can’t Forgive Episode # 40

<p>9 ways to get unstuck when you feel hurt, betrayal or overwhelmed.</p> <p>Summary:</p> <ol> <li>How to Change your focus from hurt to happiness.</li> <li>Focus on what you want next in your life to move on</li> <li>Focus on a lesson learned to not repeat again.</li> <li>How could be better off from experiencing this?</li> <li>Use your Intention for the Long term instead of on the short term</li> <li>Don’t blame anyone or yourself- Take responsibility!</li> </ol> <p>In my counseling practice I am seeing more clients feeling overwhelmed, from all the things happening this year.  Some may not have not had the emotional energy to grieve their losses.  So, we are holding on to more unhealthy feelings than we need to.  </p> <p>One of my clients came to me and told me she felt that her sister had really hurt her badly over a co-friend situation and the sister choice the friend over her. There has been a rift, or strain since.  This has been 5 years now. Covid has made it feel like it was time to come back together as a family, but her sister really didn’t seem to care about coming back together.  So we will talk about ways this sister, we call her Clara, might find some relief.</p> <p>9 ways to let go and get out of feeling Stuck.</p> <p><strong>-Ask-Do you REALLY want to change this situation and or ready to Repair the Relationship? or are you enjoying the blaming and pointing outside of yourself?  This is the 1st step you Must ask. If you must really want to change this situation Or you won’t. Period.  It is always Your choice.</strong></p> <p><strong>1.Notice what you are focused on with your own thoughts in this situation without blaming the other?</strong></p> <p>Are you continual focused on how the person hurt you, revenge thoughts, hate or destructive feelings?</p> <p>Or are you focused on solutions to repair, understand, willing to forgive or let go?  Only you can answer this.</p> <p>This client, Clara, did decide to let go of the hurt and betrayal she was feeling but didn’t’ know she could affect this, herse