#86. Toxic Accountability: What is it and how do I overcome it?

Toxic Accountability <p>I recently came up with this term to describe something I've observed both in myself, in others, and in my students. I wanted to spend some time introducing this topic so that we can talk more in-depth on this topic in the future.</p> What is Toxic Accountability <p>Toxic Accountability" is having a level of personal (or external) accountability that is detrimental to oneself or those around you.</p> <p> </p> What can Toxic Accountability look like? <ul><li>Verbally Berating oneself for not doing good enough, or learning a lesson</li> <li>Physically hitting oneself for a similar reason</li> <li>Giving up on something you love because you're not "good enough"</li> </ul> <p> </p> How do we overcome TA? <ul><li>Set CLEAR and REALISTIC expectations of oneself <ul><li>Winning a match or getting a certain rank isn't a real goal.</li> <li>Set goals that will help you improve as a player.</li> <li>Specify areas to improvement <ul><li>Neutral</li> <li>execution/mechanics</li> <li>Strategy</li> <li>Visual and/or mental focus</li> <li>Vigilance</li> <li>Hit-confirming</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> <li>Set clear boundaries for Self-care <ul><li>No insulting yourself</li> <li>Only focus on issues and mistakes if you plan to do something about them.</li> <li>Compliment yourself when you do things right <ul><li>People often neglect this VERY IMPORTANT part of improving</li> </ul> </li> </ul> </li> </ul> <p> </p>