69: Get Over the Pain From a Breakup and Get to the Lessons with Jackie

<p>Today’s episode is about breakups. I coach Jackie through what she calls an earth shattering, heartbreaking breakup, but the lessons that surface during the call can be applied to any type of Expectation Hangover. After a breakup, our hearts hurt, we feel grief, and we miss the person we ended the relationship with. The way to get out of grief is not to obsess over your ex, beat yourself up, or go out looking for someone else. The way through the grief is to milk it for all it’s worth, and to see what it is bringing up for you to heal. In Jackie’s case, her breakup is an opportunity to reframe old beliefs she had around betrayal. She continued to collect evidence for the story she believed from her childhood. Jackie was basically dating her dad. She was trying to get the love, attention and approval from her boyfriend that she never received from her dad. Remember, whatever you are going through, no matter how challenging it is, remember it is happening for you, not to you. We can get stuck in the loop of pain if we are just looking at the current situation. Don’t think a relationship was a failure just because it ended. Some relationships have an expiration limit. Look for the lessons the relationship is there to teach you. Look for the reasons you brought the person into your life in the first place.   <em>If your intention for the new year is to connect with a community of like-minded people and follow through with your meditation goals, joining my</em> <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/innercircle"><em>Inner Circle</em></a> <em>will assist you with both. The</em> <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/innercircle"><em>Inner Circle</em></a> <em>is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail</em> <a href= "mailto:Jill@ChristineHassler.com"><em>Jill@ChristineHassler.com</em></a> <em>with any questions you may have.</em>   <strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</strong> ● If you are going through a br