66: Leading, Learning. Laughing, and Loving with an Enneagram Type Four

The Four: The Individualist<br /> <br />It’s another EnneaTalk Tuesday with our EnneaType series and this week it is all about the fours. The four, sometimes known as The Romantic, is the least typed on the Enneagram and operates mostly on their feelings, marching to the beat of their own drum and uniquely individual. I discuss how to lead, laugh, love, and learn from a four, especially if you are one.<br /> <br />Listen to this episode to hear how to communicate and speak the four’s language, how to bring out the best in them if you lead or love them, and how to help them find significance and love by making them feel seen, heard, and understood.<br /><br />Driven by connection<br /> <br />The Individualist is part of the heart triad and is the most emotionally in tune than any other type in the Enneagram. They operate from feelings, are highly intuitive, authentic, empathetic, compassionate, sensitive, witty, and fun. I describe what they are driven by, and how their goal is to reclaim their wholeness in the present moment by appreciating what is happening right now.<br /> <br />I discuss how the fours can internalize a lot of their feelings and can sometimes be a roller coaster of emotions. When they are unhealthy, they can be dramatic, self-absorbed, moody, and withdrawn, but I share the ways you can help bring out the best in them, laugh with them, and communicate in their language.<br /> <br />Uplifting and acknowledging their emotions<br /> <br />I describe how their intuitive nature is unmatched, and how they often hold space for those they trust, offering the gift of loyalty and so driven by human connection that their superpower is sensitivity and authenticity. If you love or lead a four, I describe their working and leading style, how they tend to be artistic and creative, the needs of a four, and how you can bring out the best in them by making them feel seen, heard, and understood.<br /><br />Quotes:<br />“4’s are the least typed on the Enneagram, usually because they are marching to the beat of the