55: [Self-Help] The Pursuit of Perfect - Tal Ben Shahar | Do you need to be constantly dissatisfied in order to feed your ambition?

<p>1. 2 sides of Perfectionism</p> <p>a.Cons -Very deep fear of failure -Never being satisfied</p> <p>b.Pros -Doing the best we can</p> <p>2. As ambitious people, we believe that:</p> <p>a.Until I accomplish a certain goal - I can’t be happy</p> <p>b.In order to be successful I need to be constantly dissatisfied until I accomplish the goal</p> <p>3. So, Is it possible to be hungry and satisfied at the same time?</p> <p>a.YES! Thats the mark of a great intelligence - being able to hold 2 opposing ideas in your mind at the same time</p> <p>4. Is your Life an Odyssey or a Sisyphean Battle</p> <p>a.Odyssey = Life is an adventure</p> <p>-There are wins and losses -But you enjoy the journey</p> <p>b.Sisyphean Battle -Feeling like you are Never winning</p> <p>-Trying to roll a boulder up a mountain - goes on forever</p> <p>5. As ambitious people - we tend to be harsh towards ourselves</p> <p>a.But Self compassion is even more important than self esteem</p> <p>b.You Treat yourself like you would treat someone you love dearly</p> <p>c.The constant question: If I let up on myself …. How will I drive myself?</p> <p>d.Ask yourself: What is the real motivation behind me wanting to do what I want to do?</p> <p>-Dig for the intrinsic motivations</p> <p>6. You will not always be happy</p> <p>a.Accept your negative emotions b.Give yourself the permission to be human</p> <p>7. Quotes:</p> <p>a.When you appreciate the good in your life, the good appreciates</p> <p>b.In life we must Learn to fail or fail to learn</p> <p>8. Action Items:</p> <p>a.Gratitude Journal</p> <p>-Write down 3 things you are grateful for</p> <p>b.If you were completely anonymous - what would you be doing?</p>