# 51 - Fear men hold in a relationship

<p>Show Notes</p> <p><strong>A men's fear in the relationship</strong></p> <p>----------------------------------------</p> <p>(Definition)</p> <p>Fear is different from insecurity – fear is uncontrollable unpleasant energy that is triggered by actual peril or threat.</p> <p>----------------------------------------</p> <p><br></p> <ol> <li>&nbsp;Fear of Being Controlled and Smothered</li> </ol> <p>Since most men grow up in a fatherless society with strong mothering pressure, they develop a fear of being controlled by women,</p> <p>&nbsp;this is a common pattern and can be expressed in different ways. I have found that men value their independence and freedom.&nbsp;</p> <p>Unfortunately, many mistake ego, narcissism, and other forms of stupidity for freedom and independence.</p> <p>"You are not my mother or father, so don't tell me what I should and should not do"</p> <p>They do this by being stone heads, closed to other person's ideas on doing things,&nbsp;</p> <p>which later makes the relationship a hard place to be.</p> <p><br></p> <p>The contrary of this could be a mommas boy,a big boy who completely gives away control. Eish</p> <p><br></p> <p>2. Fear of rejection - This creates a Yes Babe guy, Yes Mem, the guy who cannot say no.</p> <p>&nbsp;The guy who will not speak his mind frankly and is afraid of conflict.</p> <p>&nbsp;A person who avoids the truth despite the repercussions.</p> <p>Consequently, they keep their partners happy by lying about everything.</p> <p><br></p> <p>I have a question ladies: what is a guy who is at the opposite end of this stick? that would be interesting to know.</p> <p>&nbsp;I perceive this kind of guy to be dangerous, the Perfect Match Guy, if you know that movie, you know what I mean.</p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p>Last but not least is the</p> <p>3. Fear of Not Being Lovable</p> <p>This is usually a trait that shows a lack in a person, people with a yearning feeling to become complete.</p> <p>In the beginning, he tries hard and works overtime to make people happy. Close to the