37. Make it Irresistible for Your Partner to Meet Your Needs

<p>When you approach your partner with a need, do they respond openly or do they close off?</p> <p>This week’s guest Dianne Presley joins me to talk about sharing needs in a way that invites collaboration instead of competition. She uses the CPR formula for sharing a need:</p> <ul> <li>C – Compliment</li> <li>P – State the Problem</li> <li>R – Make a Request</li> </ul> <p>Sometimes these formulas don’t work because:</p> <ul> <li>Compliments are only given when a request is soon to follow</li> <li>Problems are shared with more blame and less personal responsibility</li> <li>Requests are rigid and demanding instead of open and exploratory, or</li> <li>All the baggage of past hurts and emotions doesn’t have time to air out before you expect a big change</li> </ul> <p>Listen in to learn how sharing your needs really can be inviting and collaborative, even if it takes a while to create new patterns and habits of communication in your relationship.</p>