#332 7 Ways We Self-Sabotage and How To Stop with Dr Ramani Durvasula

<p>This week’s episode is all about a subject familiar to many of us: self-sabotage. Whether it’s the inability to stick to our health goals, leave a toxic relationship, or get that promotion, we often seem to be our own worst enemies. Self-sabotage is a spectrum of feelings, beliefs, and behaviours, but they all set us up to fail.&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Dr&nbsp;Ramani&nbsp;Durvasula is a clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology at California State University, and a world-renowned expert on narcissistic personality disorder. She’s written two books on the subject, <a href="https://amzn.to/3RlYJT3" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Should I Stay or Should I Go</em></a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/3wGDfqD" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Don’t You Know Who I Am</em></a>. She hosts the podcast&nbsp;<em>Navigating Narcissism,&nbsp;</em>and posts regularly on her YouTube channel, which has over 1 million subscribers.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>In this conversation, we talk about relationships not with others, but with ourselves.&nbsp;Dr Ramani&nbsp;talks us through the common ways in which many of us self-sabotage, including procrastination, social comparison, taking on too much and not living in alignment with our values. She explains their links to anxiety and perfectionism and shares the practical solutions that she uses with clients to overcome them. If you’ve ever considered having therapy,&nbsp;Dr Ramani&nbsp;provides some useful insights about how it can work.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>We discuss a wide range of topics, including why so many of us stick around in toxic, unsupportive relationships, the importance of cultivating friendships and communities outside the home and not expecting our romantic partner to be all things to us. And you’ll hear&nbsp;Dr Ramani&nbsp;explain a new way of thinking about our inner critic.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Dr Ramani has decades of real world experience helping her clients, she is a brilliant communicator and this is a conversation full of fresh insights a