283 - How to Beat the Confidence Con with Nicole Kalil

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have ever struggled with feeling like no matter what you do, it’s not enough, or looking like you have it all together on the outside but on the inside feeling like you have no idea what you’re doing, today’s interview with Nicole Kalil is for you.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">My guest today is Nicole Kalil, author of</span> <a href= "https://nicolekalil.com/book"><em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Validation is For Parking</span></em></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. She transitioned from a Fortune 100 C Suite executive to become a speaker and the host of This is Woman’s Work Podcast. She’s also known as the Confidence Sherpa and has helped thousands of women reclaim their confidence so they can live authentically, both personally and professionally.</span></p> <p> </p> <h3><span style="font-weight: 400;">Show Notes:</span></h3> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[2:34] - Nicole shares an experience she elaborates on in her book that showed how her outward confidence was a cover up to how she actually felt on the inside.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[4:27] - Confidence started out as a personal quest for Nicole, but as she started to piece it together, she wanted to help others.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[5:59] - What is the confidence con?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[7:14] - We will feel temporarily happy when we get the thing we think will gain us confidence. But then we need more.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[9:37] - Until it’s perfect or every box is checked, for many women, this causes inner turmoil.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[11:03] - Confidence is when we trust ourselves fully. We can’t be confident if we rely on ourselves being perfect.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[12:31] - Seeking the thing that we think will give us confidence is surface level and isn’t enough.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[13:42] - Nicole descr