274: Oren Jay Sofer on Mindful Communication

<p>Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat&nbsp;centers and educational facilities around the United States.&nbsp; He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book,&nbsp;<a href="https://amzn.to/2Vemij3" target="_blank"><em>Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication</em></a>. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode.&nbsp;</p><p><a href="https://oneyoufeed.net/2019" target="_blank">Need help with completing your goals in 2019?&nbsp;The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.</a></p><p>In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…</p><ul><li>His book, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Vemij3" target="_blank"><em>Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication</em></a></li><li>That we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to moment</li><li>The three steps to create effective conversation</li><li>Lead with Presence</li><li>Come from Curiosity and Care</li><li>Focus on What Matters</li><li>How most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another person</li><li>That you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or not</li><li>Bringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)</li><li>Bodily sensations happen in the present moment</li><li>The power of pausing</li><li>How our rate of speech is connected to our nervous system</li><li>That when we are present, we have a lot more choices</li><li>That our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communications</li><li>The intention to understand</li><li>The intention of kindness and care</li><