236: When Talking about How You Feel Goes Horribly Wrong

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">How do you talk about your feelings - without your partner getting reactive and defensive? There are some common mistakes that we make when talking about our feelings that can lead to it going horribly wrong. In today’s episode, we’ll cover ways that you can adjust how you talk about your feelings so that you’ll be most likely to stay connected - even if you’re bringing up some hard stuff. And you’ll learn what to do if you notice your partner making these mistakes as well when they talk about their feelings with you.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the</span> <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/groups/RelationshipAliveCommunity/"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Relationship Alive Community on Facebook</span></a> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">to chat about it!</span></p> <p><strong>Sponsors:</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is sponsored by</span> <a href="http://www.nativedeo.com/alive"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Native Deodorant.</span></a> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">Their products are filled with ingredients you can find in nature like coconut oil, which is an antimicrobial, shea butter to moisturize, and tapioca starch to absorb wetness. They don’t ever test on animals, they don’t use aluminum or any other scary chemical ingredients, and they’re so confident that you’ll like their deodorant that they offer free shipping - and returns.</span> <strong>For 20% off your first purchase</strong><span style="font-weight: 400;">, visit</span> <a href="http://www.nativedeo.com/alive"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">http://www.nativedeo.com/alive</span></a> <span style="font-weight: 400;">and use promo code ALIVE during checkout.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Find a quality therapist, online, to support you and work on the places where you’re stuck. For</span> <strong>10% off yo