222. How To Be Awesome At Knowing Your Headspace Determines Everything

<p>Think about this… the mood that you’re in determines everything. <br /> <br /> We all sort of know - your mindset determines your reactions.<br /> <br /> But in the last month I’ve been obsessed with the idea of how real it is that literally everything that happens to you is a result of the mindset you had going into the situation. <br /> <br /> Real life example - we’re all eating and my husband says- gosh mom makes great eggs… and great french toast. Now that I think about it, we all just really only like the breakfast foods that she cooks. <br /> <br /> If I’m in a good headspace my response is- WOW Dad’s got jokes huh? You’re welcome darling, you’re welcome! <br /> <br /> Or if I’m in a bad headspace my response is likely - You’ve gotta be F-ing kidding me do you know how many HOURS I spend cooking meals for all of you and then you guys all head up to your happy spaces and relax while I get to clean it all up?  What an ungrateful and inconsiderate thing to say you <br /> <br /> Now if you know me there is no bigger kick in the gut.  I spend so many hours in the kitchen trying to make super healthy yet super delicious foods that everyone likes. I know he’s trying to be funny- but I also know that there’s some truth to what he’s saying… but my reaction determines how the WHOLE THING goes.  Does it end up in a full on argument because that was a hurtful jab in front of the kids? Or am I able to take the hit and serve it right back and we chalk it up to we all don’t take each other so seriously? <br /> <br /> Think about it… if you’re irritated and someone says something irritating to you… you’re on fire!  You were basically waiting to get on fire. <br /> <br /> But if you’re in a good happy headspace, you’re able to laugh it off or ignore it or realize this is a THEM issue not a YOU issue. <br /> <br /> Whether it’s with your spouse or a coworker or your kids… anyone in your life.<br /> <br /> <br /> So how do we hack it?  We pause life and get back in a good headspace when we are off… or we pull back and don