#221- Breaking out of the past to create your ideal future / Jeb Johnston

<p>@jebstuartjohnston</p> <p>@transformxruby</p> <p>Your motivation is externalized</p> <p>People think you always need to enjoy the process but you wont always – remember that you feel better after</p> <p><br></p> <p>We need to bring it into a central local of control</p> <p>Skills based</p> <p>Connected and community</p> <p>Connected to their goals</p> <p>Lack of confidence can stop this</p> <p>Fear of committing to a certain path or coach to get you OUT of your patterns because you know the outcome and the shit you deal with now</p> <p><br></p> <p>People make it all about their life</p> <p>They don’t know what they want and what it takes –</p> <p><br></p> <p>People always think they need a goal to have a process or coach or direction or purpose.</p> <p><br></p> <p>How do you help people work past the low self worth</p> <p>- mums making time for themselves without guilt</p> <p>- willpower, discipline, get back on track, failure</p> <p>- the power of a coach/mentor in the process because you cant fix a faulty pattern with the same level of consciousness and it takes someone to question those parts and form new pathways&nbsp;</p> <p>- copiing mechanisms we develop through our lives that we become blind to\\n- the need for validation, proving ones self and trying to "control too much" that you don't have control so you keep recycling the patterns</p> <p>- fear of committing to a certain path or coach to get you out of the patterns</p> <p><br></p> <p>-how to help avoid relapse but also know its part of the process and its how you handle it and PERCEIVE it that matters</p> <p><br></p> <p>why it matters to get really clear on the direction you are heading so you stop living in your past stories and failures and how to reframe those</p> <p>(the downward arrow technique and any others you have)&nbsp;</p> <p><br></p> <p>So many of us struggle with change because we are stuck in the past. We can’t move past our childhood attachment to “comfort” foods. We can’t get past the body we had at 20. We keep holding on to the wei