195. Stop The Self Sabotage

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">0:00 Today we're going to talk about self-sabotage. Because so many people find themselves wanting to change, they want to do something different. Maybe they want to start that business, maybe they want to lose weight. Maybe they want to have a different relationship, no matter what it is, they have a desire for something different. No matter what they do, they can't seem to stop the self-sabotage. </span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">0:28 Well, let's start by talking about what is self-sabotage. Self-sabotage, to me, is anything that comes up that prevents you from putting yourself out there to get the thing. Maybe it's putting yourself out there online, build the business, maybe it's doing the work that you know, that's required. Maybe it's, you know, still buying the junk food, even though you said you weren't going to or maybe it's I don't know, finding excuses, right?</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">2:11 There's a few things that can drive self-sabotage, a lot of it can be fear, right? fear of being seen fear of not being enough fear of missing the mark, fear of being criticized, fear of being made fun of fear of how we're perceived, there's a whole bunch of fears, right, there can also be beliefs about ourselves about what we're worth, about what we can have about who we can be that we took on a long time ago, that go completely opposite against now what we're trying to do.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">5:06 When did this first start happening? When did I first start feeling this way? When did I first start believing this? What did I first start thinking this? What memory is going to come up for me what passenger on my bus? Do I need to meet you guys listen to me, you've heard me talk about passengers on the bus, right? previous versions of you that took on these beliefs. That is a great starting point.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">6:58 When the anxiety comes up with a whatever com