188: How to learn way beyond ‘doing well in school’

<div class="ql-block" data-block-id="block-5d53b508-476e-436b-b060-243d072e3ddd"></div> <div class="ql-block" data-block-id="block-957ee610-7810-4ee1-aa8b-9bafdb948ce8"> When you listen to this episode you may get a bit of a sense of deja vu - way back in 2020, listener Kelly reached out to me and asked if I would be willing to do <a href="https://yourparentingmojo.com/burnout/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">an episode on parental burnout</a>, which she was struggling to navigate at the time. We ended up interviewing Dr. Moira Mikolajczak, one of the world's experts on parental burnout. &nbsp; After the conversation Dr. Mikolajczak expressed to me how much her heart went out to Kelly, who was navigating what seemed like an individual-level problem when it was actually very much our society's failure to support her that created the problem. <a href="http://www.yourparentingmojo.com/race" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Having explored the connection between race and parenting in a series of episodes</a> the previous year, ideas were definitely percolating for me about how societal issues show up in our families which is, of course, a massive theme in my book (<a href="http://www.yourparentingmojo.com/book" target="_blank" rel="noopener">which will be published on September 5!</a>). &nbsp; So it was so amazing to see Kelly recently in a much better place, reflecting on the connections between her school-based learning and her burnout, and how she's taking steps to help her child learn lessons she thinks are truly important, like how to: &nbsp; <ul> <li>Think critically about messages she receives from other people;</li> <li>See multiple people's needs in an interaction, and find ways to meet both of their needs;</li> <li>Learn about the world immediately around her (which often involves Kelly backing off and <em>not doing anything</em>, rather than stepping in to teach a lesson).</li> </ul><br/> &nbsp; Kelly's children are certainly learning profound lessons in this process - but so is Kelly. I'm not s