179: I Never Thought of It That Way with Mónica Guzmán and Lulu

If you're anything like me, navigating conflict comes pretty easily to you. You always know what to say to make your point in a tone that's firm but still inviting, right? You listen for the purpose of understanding the other person and don't just use the time while the other person is speaking to form your own rebuttal? You never get overwhelmed, and maintain your own sense of boundaries even when the <span style="text-decoration: line-through">discussion</span> argument gets really heated? &nbsp; (Yeah, me either, really...) &nbsp; A few months ago I put out a request for folks who disagree with me on a social issue to let me know if they would be willing to come and discuss the topic with me on a podcast episode. &nbsp; I had just read Mónica Guzmán's book I Never Thought Of It That way, which concludes with an invitation to practice the tools she teaches about navigating conflict more effectively, and I thought: "Well, let's do it!" Mónica agreed to moderate a conversation and I put out a call for folks to participate... &nbsp; ...and let's just say that the silence was deafening. &nbsp; (And I was kind of disappointed. I mean, you all are a pretty opinionated bunch, right? And I KNOW some of you disagree with me about some things...) &nbsp; The one person who responded was parent Lulu, who wrote: "I do admit that I disagree with your recent focus on white privilege and how it seems to make its way into almost every episode. Yes, it’s something to be aware of, but I don’t want that awareness to drive many of my and my kids' decisions and conversations." &nbsp; Of course my first thought was "Well, you're wrong," but when I responded: "Tell me more!" she added that she sees topics like school, behavior, nutrition, empathy, and other factors as all more important than discussing White privilege on a regular basis. &nbsp; "Super," I said. "Let's talk." &nbsp; So we each prepared for the conversation using a framework described in Mónica's book, and as we w