172: You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent with Carla Naumburg

<span style="font-weight: 400">Are you a shitty parent?</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">Or do you ever <em>think</em> you might be?</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">Parenting today is so hard, and there are so many models of 'perfect parenting' available on social media that we can compare ourselves against that provide 'evidence' that we're not doing it right.</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">Things can get even more difficult when we believe in respectful parenting, because we have a model for what we know we want parenting to be like - and every time we fall short of that ideal, the voice is there:</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">"You don't know what you're doing."</span> <span style="font-weight: 400">"You'll never be able to do it right."</span> <span style="font-weight: 400">"You're a shitty parent."</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">My guest today, Carla Naumburg, is the author of the bestselling book How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids, which was conveniently released just before a global pandemic started when we suddenly all started losing our shit with our kids.</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">Now she's back with a new book: You Are Not A Sh*tty Parent which helps us to understand:</span> <ul> <li>Where these stories about ourselves come from</li> <li>How we can stop believing these stories</li> <li>Ways to treat both ourselves and our children with more compassion</li> </ul><br/> <span style="font-weight: 400">Carla was kind enough to send an advance copy of the book to a member of my community who said that she would read a sentence in it and think:</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">“But you don’t know me; I actually AM a shitty parent!”</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">...and then in the next sentence it was almost like Carla had read her mind and was prepared to address the member's precise concern. So if you ever feel anxious about yo