#161: Terri Cole: Understanding Co-Dependency and Creating Boundaries in Relationships

<p class="p1"><span class="s1">Terri Cole</span><span class= "s2"> is a New York-based licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert and founder of Real Love Revolution™ & </span><span class="s1">Terri Cole's</span><span class= "s2"> Boundary Bootcamp™</span><span class="s3">Before earning a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychotherapy from New York University and adopting a daily meditation/green juice/exercise lifestyle, she worked as a talent agent for actors an d supermodels. She was your typical Type A overachiever with zero balance and no internal peace. Her ambition and fearless attitude fanned the “must get to the top” flames as I zipped across the country from Los Angeles to New York City fueled by caffeine, nicotine, and adrenalin. (I was shocked to discover that espresso is not a food group!)</span></p> <p class="p2"><span class="s3">When it became evident that the things (money, power, sexy job) that I thought would make me happy - didn’t, I could no longer ignore the voice in my heart asking, “Isn’t there something more meaningful you could be doing with your life than making supermodels richer?”</span></p> <p class="p2"><span class="s3">What she learned in the trenches with my clients informed and continues to inspire the work I do today. Her mission and dharma is teaching women how to attract and sustain healthy, vibrant, Real Love into their lives and how to establish and maintain effective boundaries with ease and grace.</span></p> <p><strong>How do you get over being “triggered”?</strong></p> <p>Information is liberation. Embrace whatever it is that you know you need to hear, in spite of the short-term pain. If this is something that potentially needs your attention, slowly but surely find the courage to give it that attention. Healing may require a lot of unlearning. But it starts with giving yourself permission to pause and realizing that it all starts and ends with you. “Soothe yourself with the knowledge that nothing is required of you,” says Terri. “We’re never required to change.”</p> <p><str