#153 IMAGINE what you CAN ACHIEVE w/ THIS approach +fiery sex/ self control isnt the issue-Shannon Beer

<p>Cognitive dissonance</p> <p><strong>You have to be aware of how you think to then address them</strong></p> <p><strong>How we think about ourselves is how we perceive our environment and interactions</strong></p> <p>&nbsp;so many people are so busy being human doings that they aren’t sitting with themselves to allow this growing process to happen</p> <p>SO THEY STAY STUCK&nbsp;</p> <p>Slowing down to allow awareness and then ownership</p> <p>Perfectionism – vs</p> <p><u><strong>Identifying with these labels</strong></u></p> <ul> <li>identity and labels sabotage this and then lead into unrealistic expectations</li> <li>Must ___ or else ____</li> <li><strong>Striving vs concerns</strong></li> <li><strong>Moving toward vs moving away from</strong></li> <li>Discomfort</li> </ul> <p><br></p> <ul> <li>Importance of RESTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT</li> <li>writing</li> <li>hobbies</li> </ul> <p>Allows more flexibility</p> <p>Lag time for change</p> <p><strong>Striving for perfection can be harmful - you can want to be great without it becoming something crippling you as so many of us are scared of set backs, of failure.</strong></p> <p>Sometimes our personal standards become unrelenting.</p> <p>We learn to base our self-worth on these pursuits.</p> <p><strong>Stop identifying with your failures. Mistakes don’t prevent us from reaching our goals.</strong></p> <ul> <li>Stop identifying with your failures. Mistakes don’t prevent us from reaching our goals.</li> <li>The issue is that most of us are pretty hard on ourselves when we feel like we’ve slipped up.</li> <li>And it’s the way we respond to our mistakes that really matters.</li> </ul> <p><br></p> <ul> <li>When we blame ourselves, not only does it make us feel bad, but this is usually where the ‘self-sabotage’ begins to occur.</li> <li>We’re total failures, so what does it matter now, right?</li> <li>And so the cycle begins.</li> </ul> <p><br></p> <ul> <li>The mistake isn’t the problem.&nbsp;</li> <li>One small slip up doesn’t make you a total failur