128: Building AND Flexing your Personal Development Muscles Using the Enneagram

So, you’ve been doing this personal development stuff for a while now...⁣<br />⁣<br />You’ve hired coaches, joined masterminds, and gone to events.⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />Listen now⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />You’ve achieved some movement and change—you’re able to move the needle and attract friendships and love—but there’s something missing.⁣<br />⁣<br />Maybe you can’t sustain it, maybe it’s not long before you go back into an old pattern, you get triggered, etc.⁣<br />⁣<br />I see a lot of problems in the personal development world.⁣<br />⁣<br />I’m a first generation personal developer—Gen X’s parents didn’t really dabble. And when we go into the personal development space or we’re marketed to, we think, “If I just do this, go here, or hire this person, I’m gonna have this on lock.”⁣<br />⁣<br />This isn’t always the case.⁣<br />⁣<br />Which can lead us down a shame spiral: “I’ve invested all this money and time into this person who I thought was the answer—that they could guide me to this destination.” Which is largely due to the society we live in, which wants everything fast and easy. This is how we want our development to go too—but that’s not how we achieve true change.⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />Quotes:⁣<br />1:29 ⁣<br />When we go into this personal development space or we are marketed to, a lot of time we are like “if I just do this or if I just go here or I just hire this person I’m going to have this on lock” and it isn’t always the case. ⁣<br />⁣<br />2:47 ⁣<br />We have to have unconditional commitment to the process. ⁣<br />⁣<br />3:48 ⁣<br />All the information doesn’t mean sh*t if we don’t integrate it or know how to integrate it. ⁣<br /> ⁣<br />4:16 ⁣<br />It’s one thing to gather the information and build the resistance and build the muscle but you can’t really flex it or see what it’s made of until you get in the game. ⁣<br />⁣<br />7:37 ⁣<br />As an 8, my growth number is the 2 which is the compassionate and empathic feeler, the connector. ⁣<br />⁣<br />8:32 ⁣<br