116 - Panel "My Child Needs 100%, What About Me?"

<span style="font-weight: 400;">This past Wednesday we joined together for the second live Q&A on The Frum Women's Insight Panel!</span> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Our topic was "My Child Needs 100% - What About Me?" Our panelists were Jodi Fried, Sara Shaindel Goldwasser, and Chaya Breindy Kenigsberg.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here are some of the questions that our panelists answered:</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">1) My child struggles with aggression and dysregulation. Sometimes I literally feel like I'm in a battlefield. And after an hour and a half of dealing with a total explosion, and trying to keep him, me, and my other kids safe, I'm totally wiped. Often I end up in tears from sheer despair and feeling so bashed. What advice do you have to stay calm in those moments, without it wiping your energy? How you replenish your resources afterward. How can you bounce back into real life, after episodes like that?!</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">2) There are certain of my kids whose demands feel like they are sapping allllllllllll my energy. Like one request feels like I'm being bullied. How can I not translate their requests as FULL BLOWN I NEED THIS NOW demands?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">3) Hi! I’ve been doing a lot of inner work and still have a long way to go. I know that my kids need me a lot more than I am currently giving of myself to them, but I have a hard time putting my “stuff“ on hold in order to fully give to them. I have this fantasy wish of being able to fix all my stuff and then come back to my family fully (maybe a time machine so they don’t need to wait! :) )</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">4) A) I myself have my own feeling of not being heard and supported by my own parents. But I also literally cannot be there all the time for my own kids. What do I do with this guilt/need? Their needs vs my needs. I can't seem to find that guilt-free balance. Should I just be ok that they will also feel like their nee