070 The Shame of Narcissistic Abuse

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Today, we will talk about the shame many of us feel for staying longer than we think we should have in an abusive relationship with a narcissist.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this show, my main focus is to understand before judging, to be compassionate before pointing fingers, and to take care of what we feel before wasting time on what others think of us. We will look at the reasons that made us stay in an abusive relationship from a trauma-informed lens, trying to understand our nervous system and why we behave the way we do.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">What You Will Learn In This Episode:</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">- The link between my childhood traumas and me becoming a perfectionist and a people-pleasing person</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">- Why meeting my ex-husband, a covert narcissist, felt like I had met Prince Charming</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">- Why our brain thinks that it is better to stay with the narcissist than risk the unknown world</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When our protector parts are coming to the rescue, that means somehow our inner child wounds were triggered. Getting curious about what triggered them is crucial for our recovery. We can't change past events, but we can change our experience over those events and, most importantly, how we FEEL about those events. That is the beginning of our healing journey because those past traumatic experiences won't hurt us anymore. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Resources:</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™</span> <a href= "https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse"> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse</span></a></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">- Join my Facebook group at</span> <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafter