041 - How to Find Purpose

<p>There is one thing that comes up more than most when it comes to working with men; PURPOSE.</p> <p>Sure, many guys want to 'get confidence' and some want to simply get out of the frustrating place they are now, stop the sabotage and spending a vast majority of their time caught in their head.</p> <p>But even for those guys, at <em>some point,</em> the work turns to 'finding purpose', Which, when you talk to them - as I do all the time - the idea we have gleaned from the world of personal development, self-help, and 'success' is that a man must find his 'One True Purpose' as if there is something waiting for all of us, something we were born to 'uncover' which will then make ou lives not only complete, but <em>make</em> our lives.</p> <p>We learn to hang the entire of our happiness (outside of that which we have possibly lumped on our romantic partners) onto this idea that '<em>once I find <span style= "text-decoration: underline;">my</span> purpose I'll be happy and everything in my life will make sense and be ultra meaningful'.</em></p> <p>If you can't tell yet from my approach here, I think this is a load of bollocks that tends to send most men into a frenzy of ludicrously high expectations they can't meet - can never find this elusive 'one purpose' - and so go into the mode of self-beat-up, a consistent mode of 'shoulds' ('I <em>should be living my purpose'</em>) and ultimately being kind of frozen in inaction until this one big purpose hits us over the head somehow.</p> <p>Lies and misnomers.<br /> This is something we deal with a lot in my coaching and so I have decided to do a solo episode on it as well as release a punchy yet powerful teaching mini-course on actually finding purpose.</p> <p> </p> <h3><strong>In this episode</strong></h3> <p>I bring you a take on the above as we explore why this happens and how it messes with our lives.</p> <p>I'll take you through a couple of simple examples of purpose as we explore the <span style= "text-decoration: underline;">vital</span> difference between 'finding