020 Why you have confidence all wrong

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Here’s a common desire in so many men -</span> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I want to be more confident”</span></em> <span style="font-weight: 400;">which, if not obvious, follows the proclamation</span> <em><span style= "font-weight: 400;">“I’m just not confident enough”</span></em> <span style="font-weight: 400;">- or words very close to that effect.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They’re the words of men focused on a story they have around confidence - that they don’t have it and they need to find it. But it goes beyond that, it extends into this idea I have that some people have it, they're doing things I’m not, and because they have it and I don’t, there must be something wrong with me.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">And that story - or line of internal narrative - is what not only perpetuates the belief that we don’t have confidence, therefore, don’t feel it, but it is the creation of not feeling confident in its entirety.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Confidence is a subject we have butchered for so long, like many others in the realm of personal development such as motivation, will power or discipline.</span><span style= "font-weight: 400;"><br /></span><span style= "font-weight: 400;">What it requires is a deeper assessment, some curiosity to see what is really playing out here.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If I want to feel confident in something yet my fear around the lack of confidence - in reality, my insecurity about not looking competent - is stopping me from doing the thing to gain the confidence I get from doing it, I am creating and perpetuating my own misery cycle.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This is so common it hurts. And so, that’s what I wanted to cover in this episode of the podcast.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span></p> <h3><strong>In this episode:</strong></h3> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A while ago I did a short video on my social media