010 How Do I Stop Staring at My Crush?

<p>Today&apos;s question comes from Valerie via Instagram:</p><p><em>I have a random question. This morning I was doing some overthinking (as per usual) and I remembered an episode where you discussed that when you were interested in someone you’d stare at them. I always thought I was the only one who did this and I was wondering what steps you might’ve taken to overcome this?</em></p><p>I answer Valerie&apos;s question in my typical roundabout way, first delving into why we may find it hard to stop staring at a crush, what makes staring so irresistible in the first place, and then tips on how to stop. I incorporate, as always, my autistic, neurodivergent perspective on this topic. <br/><br/><b>Resources</b></p><ul><li><a href='https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2017/love-actually-science-behind-lust-attraction-companionship/#:~:text=High%20levels%20of%20dopamine%20and,eat%20and%20can%27t%20sleep'>Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship</a> (Harvard)</li><li><a href='http://drellenlittman.com/ADHD_Brains.pdf'>What the ADHD Brain Wants, And Why</a> (Dr. Ellen Littman)</li><li><a href='https://www.juliaraveyscience.com/post/2019/02/22/blinded-by-love-the-neuroscience-of-crushes-obsession-and-rejection'>Blinded By Love: The Neuroscience of Crushes, Obsessions, and Rejection</a> (Julia Ravey Science)</li></ul><p>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - <br/>If you have a question for the show, please send it to the show name at gmail dot com or via any of the social media links below!<br/>- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - <br/><br/><em>Love the show!? Click the links below to support me, follow me, or join the community:</em><br/><br/><b>Pay me, Daddy!</b><br/><a href='https://www.patreon.com/pynkspots'>Patreon</a> | <a href='https://venmo.com/u/pynkspots'>Venmo</a> | <a href='https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/vw