#00090 The Limits of Conflict Avoidance

<h1 dir="ltr"> </h1> <p dir="ltr">Most of us love avoiding conflict...</p> <p><strong> </strong>...if love is evaluated on the basis of our actions rather than our words.</p> <p><strong> </strong>And there's some really good reasons the mind avoids conflict.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">1. You can't lose if you don't play (risk-averse)</p> <p dir="ltr">2. Conflict means somebody (you) f*cked up. (guilt/shame)</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">There's also another really good reason the body avoids conflict.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">3. We don't know the difference between life-threatening conflict and ego-threatening conflict</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">As you probably know, I'm not actually here to congratulate you on avoiding conflict.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">So in this episode, I'll go over those three (good) reasons to avoid conflict. I'll point why they're good and what negative consequences they have.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">And then I'll give a simple 7-word heuristic to help you determine when conflict avoidance is the right thing (and when it's not).</p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Show Links:</p> <p dir="ltr">Youtube: <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF_C56bjm3HPYOvdWEfnWtw</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Voicemail:  <a href= "https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow">https://www.speakpipe.com/10khshow</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Email: info@10kh.show</p> <p dir="ltr">Podcast website: <a href= "http://momentumlab.com/podcast">http://momentumlab.com/podcast</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Momentum Lab: <a href= "http://www.momentumlab.com">http://www.momentumlab.com</a></p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">About our sponsor:</p> <p dir="ltr">10,000 Heroes is brought to you by Momentum Lab. </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">I normally refer to Momentum Lab as an experiment-based coaching program or a goal accelerator.</p> <p><strong> </strong>