Cycles

<p>In Come Here To Me's first bonus episode, Figs and Teale break down what "a cycle" means in a relationship by exploring the emotional bonding needs every human is born with.</p><p><strong>Timestamps: </strong></p><p>01:00 Small talk </p><p>03:48 Introduction to topic, "The Cycle" </p><p>05:46 "The problem is not the problem" </p><p>09:33 Surfer bro interlude: Just keep swimming </p><p>11:37 Couples fight because they love each other </p><p>12:38 "The solution itself is not the answer," Do you both feel loved? </p><p>14:48 Reptilian insults</p><p>16:07 "If you really love me" conversations</p><p>17:56 Attachment theory / emotional bonding</p><p>23:42 "This is the one that I hope my emotional love needs will be met by."</p><p>26:20 Honeymoon's end</p><p>26:59 Feeling unloved prompts a negative reaction</p><p>28:02 Reaction prompts negative response</p><p>28:57 What is a cycle?</p><p>33:09 ...Fiddling</p><p>33:43 Let it feel like a relief: you're fighting because you love each other so much!</p><p>38:47 The key isn't to avoid getting into a cycle, it's to get out of the cycle once it's started.</p><p>Visit <a href="http://comeheretomepodcast.com">comeheretomepodcast.com</a> for episode transcripts, social media links, and to subscribe to the mailing list.</p><p>If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit <a href="http://empathi.com">empathi.com</a> for quizzes, courses, and consultations.</p>