Why Failure Is a Good Thing

<p>Are you trying to avoid failure at all costs? </p><p>Most people (especially women) don't actually do anything to be successful because the dreaded F word literally paralyzes them. That’s how fatal meaning they are giving to failure.</p><p>During the ten years of my work with clients, I’ve been getting the same answer when I ask them what failure means to them. Every single time. If they try something big and fail in a spectacular way, for them, it means:</p><p>- they're not good enough</p><p>- they're not lovable</p><p>- they'll be abandoned</p><p>- they'll die alone</p><p>Interestingly, we get terrified of success too. My clients have pretty similar answers when we talk about fear of success. Although we don’t start with, <i>I'm not enough</i>, but with, <i>I think I'm better than</i>… somehow we come to: Somebody else will feel threatened and destroy me.</p><p>And here we go again: Therefore, I will lose everything I have, which means:</p><p>- I'm not worthy</p><p>- I'm not deserving</p><p>- I'm not enough</p><p>- I'm not lovable</p><p>- I will die alone</p><p>Isn’t it really fascinating how the programs we run and all of the societal conditioning we have had over thousands of years make us so terribly afraid of failure? </p><p>So, can we change the meaning of failure? What do you do when you fail? Is it possible to turn your mistakes into stepping stones for success?</p><p>Of course, the answer is YES to all these questions.</p><p>Tune in for this episode as I’m explaining how to overcome the fear of failure and what to do when you make mistakes.</p><p>Let’s jump in!</p><p><strong>Key Takeaways:</strong></p><p>- Intro (00:00)</p><p>- What do you do when you make a mistake? (01:03)</p><p>- I was so terrified of failure (02:40)</p><p>- Both success and failure are feedback (03:49)</p><p>- I gave myself permission to make mistakes (04:37)</p><p>- Every failure contains a little bit of success (06:24)</p><p>- Big experiment - dating 80 guys in 4 years (07:52)</p><p>- Set perfectionism aside (09:28) </p><p><str