When anger becomes problematic

<p>In today&apos;s episode we discuss anger in relationships: how it affects you and your partner. Anger can of course be a significant problem in your relationship if it is out of control. <br/><br/>Anger can take many forms; it can be outer or inner directed. Unexpressed anger that is always held in can manifest as depression or self harm. <br/><br/>In relationships where partner A is always angry it may also be the case that their role is to hold the anger in the relationship; they may express their partner B&apos;s anger on their behalf.<br/><br/>Anger is a threat response in the wider sense; you are in fight mode and are responding to a perceived threat. You will anger in your body: your heart rate increases, you breathing may become more shallow, you may have sweaty palms, you have tunnel vision and many other symptoms.  <br/><br/>If you can find the triggers for your anger you can address it more effectively: e.g. it might be your partner&apos;s tone of voice that sets you off. Our memories are emotional state dependent. A situation in the present can trigger memories of past situations where you felt slighted or undermined. <br/><br/>We discuss how you may manage your anger more effectively, for example by learning to control your breathing or by practicing visualisations.<br/><br/>The Relationship Maze courses:<br/>What is your argument style? Find out in our short <a href='https://mrqz.to/argumentstyle'>quiz</a>. You can find a link on our website: https://therelationshipmaze.com.<br/><br/>Struggling with a lot of conflict and arguments in your relationship? Learn about communicating effectively in our <a href='https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2'>Stop Arguing, Start Loving</a> mini course:  <a href='https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2'>https://therelationshipmaze.com/relationshipconflictvsl2</a>.<br/><br/>Learn everything you always wanted to know about building and maintaining  loving relationships in our comprehensive course <a href='https://therelationshipma