Reeling

<p>Figs is sent reeling when a session on repair goes in an unexpected direction when Teale tries to connect deeply. Explore the ways preconceptions shake up natural processes as Figs and Teale challenge the idea that there's a "right" way to be vulnerable.</p><p><strong>Timestamps:</strong></p><p>01:06 Introduction</p><p>01:56 Figs' Irish ways</p><p>07:03 Preview of session — "Are we ready to stop being in your head, Figs?"</p><p>08:03 The Emotional Withdrawer's struggle to describe their internal world</p><p>09:41 Healing empathy from Teale and the therapist</p><p>11:35 Understanding the Emotional Withdrawer</p><p>12:12 Teale's realization, "And it's happening right now"</p><p>15:07 Session begins — Figs' rate of repair</p><p>17:59 "You're so good at coming out." "Even when you don't fish him out." "No."</p><p>19:05 Teale has trouble tolerating disconnection</p><p>22:32 Figs feels trapped in having to repair — being "reeled in" — before he's ready</p><p>24:15 Teale's will feels overpowering to Figs, he wants to collapse</p><p>30:06 Process question — too cognitive?</p><p>32:13 Figs receives the message, "My way of processing is not right"</p><p>34:24 Teale was trying to be "good"</p><p>36:42 Figs is overwhelmed, feels like they can't get any one thing done</p><p>45:04 Teale reflects Figs' feelings and acknowledges her own triggers</p><p>46:19 Figs feels Teale is more trigger-able in session</p><p>49:32 Figs describes being unhappy, "and it's not acceptable"</p><p>50:47 Staying with the negative feelings</p><p>53:27 Figs' feelings were shut down, triggered feelings of "Too much"-ness</p><p>55:52 Figs was able to let in Teale and the therapist</p><p>59:20 Session ends</p><p>59:38 Teale learned a lot about herself as a critic and Figs' shame</p><p>01:02:10 Finding the deep sadness beneath the surface</p><p>01:04:10 Teale and the therapist's empathy gave Figs the space he needed</p><p>01:07:54 French movie vs American movie analogy</p><p>01:09:12 "You don't have to get it right the first time"</p><p>01:09:48 Next w