Too Much, Not Enough

<p>Figs and Teale share a clip of their first session with a couples therapist. Witness how the ways they miss each other escalates into hurt and blame and then ultimately resolves through the therapist's intervention, then learn how you can navigate out of negative cycles in your relationship.</p><p><strong>Timestamps: </strong></p><p>01:00 Introduction to Figs and Teale</p><p>04:04 What's in a name: "Come Here To Me" </p><p>08:20 Why this podcast: Witnesses </p><p>9:45 Special tip of the episode: Follow the process </p><p><strong>13:24 Session begins — Figs feels alone with life's difficulties and like he's a failure </strong></p><p>17:26 Turning point: Conflict and hurt (Teale is hurt by Figs' description of her, protests, Figs feels hurt and protests in kind)</p><p>20:46 Figs is prompted to reflect back his understanding of Teale's hurt</p><p>22:19 Teale feels shame around missing the place Figs was coming from because of her own insecurities</p><p>22:33 Moment of humor and connectedness: Figs sees Teale shift into feeling bad about herself</p><p>23:21 Figs considers himself to be a difficult person</p><p><strong>23:47 Session ends — It's so easy to miss each other</strong></p><p>25:59 The snake in the grass: humans focus on the perceived threat</p><p>27:45 Shame</p><p>29:02 Walking through the cycle</p><p>32:46 Turning point: interventions and empathy</p><p>33:35 Blaming is not being vulnerable</p><p>36:33 Seeing past the mess to the possibility of repair</p><p>Visit <a href="http://comeheretomepodcast.com">comeheretomepodcast.com</a> for episode transcripts, social media links, and to subscribe to the mailing list.</p><p>If you or someone you love are struggling in your relationship, visit <a href="http://empathi.com">empathi.com</a> for quizzes, courses, and consultations.</p>